Friends + Family of Hikers: Some Questions to Ask When They Call Home

I’ve heard of a few instances where hikers call home or friends and the conversation has been less than encouraging. I think part of the reason that happens is because people imagine that we’re out here having the time of our lives and maybe even need to be brought back down to earth, or think the things we want to talk about are the itinerary of our days. 

That may be true for some hikers, but it seems to me a lot of us are trying to process some of the negative thoughts patterns we have out here (and back home, too) and emotions that come up. I’ve also heard that one of the hardest things about eventually leaving the trail is that people at home don’t understand at all what you’ve been through. I’m hoping this list of ideas will help bridge the gap and help make hikers still feel connected and understood by their support people back home. (Keep in mind this is from the perspective of someone who’s only been out here for 3 weeks.)

How are you feeling today?

What was the last section like?

What was the hardest part about it?

What was your favorite part about it?

How are your feet/back/new shoes/stomach problems/whatever small thing they’ve told you has changed?

How are you feeling about the trip so far?

What are you looking forward to?

What’s it like when you get to town?

Are you being nice to yourself?

Are you hiking with people? What do you think of them?

How much time are you spending alone? Is it too little? Too much?

What have you been thinking about as you hike?

Have you had any really upsetting moments?

Have you had any moments where you were afraid?

How many miles are you doing? Does it feel like the right amount?
Hikers, feel free to add more questions in the comments!

7 responses to “Friends + Family of Hikers: Some Questions to Ask When They Call Home”

  1. Thanks!! According to you, I’m doing pretty good so far~ Nice to hear from a hikers side!! Good luck out there~


    1. Thank you! And I’m sure you’re doing wonderfully ๐Ÿ™‚


  2. It’s interesting to see how you have changed in just three weeks…. I wonder how much of the change we retain after the journey is done…


    1. I’m definitely interested in the answer to that too ๐Ÿ™‚


  3. Ellen Jacobsen Avatar
    Ellen Jacobsen

    Thanks for this! I don’t have any friends or family on hiking trips right now but my 20 year old daughter is getting ready to do a long distance biking trip. She is leaving Memorial Day weekend from Central Park on a trip with Greenriders Across America a grassroots group that is biking across the country and will be stopping in various places to help set up community gardens and help educate communities regarding sustainable living. I think some of your questions and comments will come in handy.

    Ellen J.


    1. That’s so incredible, I hope she has an amazing time! That’s such important work. And I think these questions totally translate to what she’s doing too ๐Ÿ™‚


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